WoW 137: On the flywheel of disconnection
Show notes
Breaking the Cycle: The Flywheel of Disconnection and the Power of Connection
In 'Words of Wisdom 137,' Josh explores the essential role of connection in human flourishing. He introduces the concept of the 'disconnection flywheel,' explaining how disconnection from God, oneself, and others perpetuates a cycle of isolation and sin. Josh outlines a pathway to breaking this cycle through awareness, self-honesty, and authentic engagement with others, eventually creating a 'flywheel of connection' that leads to restoration and growth. Featuring quotes from Mother Teresa and Diedrich Bonhoeffer, the episode concludes with reflective questions to guide personal journaling and prayer.
00:00 Introduction: The Power of Connection
00:58 Understanding the Disconnection Flywheel
01:53 Breaking Free: The Path to Connection
02:53 Quotes on Connection and Isolation
03:34 Reflective Questions for Personal Growth
04:06 Final Thoughts: Embrace Connection
About Josh Kalsbeek, LMFT
• As a Psychoherapist Josh helps people overcome their greatest struggles.
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Transcript
Words of Wisdom 137 On the Flywheel of Disconnection Connection
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:is at the core of human flourishing.
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:When we are deeply connected to
God, ourselves, and others, we
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:thrive and grow in profound ways.
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:However, the true power and
importance of connection is often
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:underestimated or overlooked.
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:Growth through connection is not
a straightforward, linear process.
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:It's a complex interplay of
factors that influence and
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:build upon each other over time.
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:In the early stages, it can be
incredibly difficult to see how
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:all the pieces fit together.
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:This is especially true when we are
trapped in a state of disconnection, and
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:obscure our vision of a better future.
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:The disconnection flywheel is a
concept that shows how disconnection
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:breeds more disconnection in a self
perpetuating and compounding cycle.
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:The more isolated and out of sync
we become with God, our authentic
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:selves, and healthy relationships,
the harder it is to break free.
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:We get caught in distorted thinking,
fear, and resentment, which leads us to
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:try to selfishly control our own lives.
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:This leads to isolation, which includes
dishonesty with ourselves and others.
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:Sin and chaos then grow in your life,
which of course grows your distorted
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:thinking, fear, and resentment.
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:The more you sin, the more shame you feel.
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:The more you avoid God and lie to yourself
and others about your selfish behavior.
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:This essentially guarantees
the cycle will continue and
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:things will get worse in time.
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:Not better.
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:But there is hope.
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:We can begin to unravel the
insidious influence of disconnection
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:by understanding its dynamics.
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:Awareness is the first step toward
embracing the healing power of connection.
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:A new pattern emerges as we turn
towards God, pursue self honesty,
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:and engage authentically with others.
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:A flywheel of connection,
restoration, and growth.
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:Though it always starts small, each turn
of the wheel builds momentum, transforming
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:our lives from the inside out.
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:The path of connection is not always
easy, but it is immensely worthwhile.
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:As we commit to the process, We tap into
richer relationships, greater purpose,
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:and a life aligned with God's design.
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:Slowly, but surely, everything starts
to piece together in a coherent
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:whole, revealing the masterful way
growth through connection unfolds.
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:Quotes.
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:The greatest disease in the West today
is not TB or leprosy, it is being
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:unwanted, unloved, and uncared for.
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:We can cure physical diseases
with medicine, but the only
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:cure for loneliness, despair,
and hopelessness is love.
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:Attributed to Mother Teresa.
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:Sin demands to have a man by himself.
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:It withdraws him from the community.
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:The more isolated a person
is, the more destructive will
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:be the power of sin over him.
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:By Diedrich Bonhoeffer, in
his book, Life Together.
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:Questions.
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:In what areas of my life do I feel most
disconnected from God, myself, or others?
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:What are the root causes
of this disconnection?
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:Which relationships in my life
need attention and nurturing?
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:How can I engage more
authentically and vulnerably,
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:even when it feels uncomfortable?
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:These questions as journal prompts
and to guide your prayers this week.
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:End note.
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:Disconnection is a deadly disease.
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:Fight against it with all your might.
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:Live wisely.
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:Josh
