WoW 139: On 5 reflections about love and breaking generational wounds
Show notes
In this episode, Josh explores five reflections on love and breaking generational wounds. Key ideas include making the unseen visible by allowing others in, learning to connect through surrender, and the importance of receiving love to be able to give it. Josh emphasizes the complexities of love, which involves valuing, sacrificing, serving, and sometimes disagreeing. Quotes from Terry Real and Pia Melody highlight the importance of facing generational pathology and recognizing inherent worth in oneself and others. The episode concludes with reflective questions encouraging listeners to embrace God’s love, break generational cycles, and live wisely.
00:00 Introduction: Reflections on Love and Generational Wounds
00:09 Understanding Love: Letting Others In and Surrendering
00:23 The Essence of Love: Receiving and Giving
01:04 Marriage: A Path to Selflessness and Intimacy
01:26 Quotes on Generational Healing and Intimacy
02:43 Reflective Questions: Embracing Love and Breaking Cycles
03:20 Conclusion: Living Wisely with Love
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• As a Psychoherapist Josh helps people overcome their greatest struggles.
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Transcript
Words of Wisdom 139 On five reflections about love and
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:breaking generational wounds.
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:We want the unseen to be
seen by letting others in.
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:We want the controllers to learn
to connect by surrendering.
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:Loving God and others is never enough.
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:You must let God and others love
you and learn to love yourself.
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:Until you learn to receive
love, you cannot give it.
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:If you need someone, including yourself,
to live or act a certain way in order to
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:love them, then you've already lost them.
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:Love doesn't mean acceptance
without consequences.
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:It does mean valuing, Sacrificing,
serving, celebrating, disagreeing,
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:saying no, and taking space.
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:The best thing about marriage is
it prevents you from instantly
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:fulfilling your desires.
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:Marriage destroys
selfishness, if you let it.
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:Your commitment and pursuit of
intimacy calls you far deeper
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:than surface level satisfactions
and invites you into surrender,
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:deep presence, and transformation.
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:Quotes.
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:"Family pathology rolls from generation
to generation, taking down everything
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:in its path like a fire in the woods
until one person, in one generation,
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:has the courage to face the flames.
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:That Person Brings Peace to Their
Ancestors and Spares the Children
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:by Terry Real as quoted June 25,
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:Once recovery persons acknowledge the
truth of who they are and feel love for
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:themselves in the face of that truth, they
are prepared to recognize it in others.
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:They now have a personal spiritual
template that guides their vision to
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:perceive other spiritual realities in
the world, the most important of which is
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:other people, whom they now recognize as
having, like themselves, inherent worth.
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:It changes the way they treat people,
and the way they are treated in return.
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:This, ultimately, is what
makes intimate relationships
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:possible, and it makes them work.
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:By Pia Melody in her
book, The Intimacy Factor.
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:Questions.
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:Will you sit in the light of
God's loving presence today, and
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:just breathe for ten minutes?
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:Will you sit in the light of
another's presence, love with
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:curiosity, and listen deeply?
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:What is a generational wound
showing up in your life?
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:What courageous step will
help break that cycle?
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:Use these questions to guide your
prayers and journals this week.
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:End note.
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:Open yourself to love and
let that love guide you.
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:Live wisely.
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:Josh
