Episode 18

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8th Nov 2023

WoW 108 : On determining what you want. Questions, Part 2

Words of Wisdom 108 on determining what you want. Questions, Part 2

00:06 Understanding What Truly Matters

01:00 The Power of Questions for Self-Discovery

01:14 The Role of Desire in Helping Others

01:43 Inspirational Quotes on Desire

02:49 Questions to Understand Your Desires

03:38 The Importance of Meaningful Action

About Josh Kalsbeek, LMFT

• As a Psychoherapist I help people overcome their greatest struggles.

•Founder and CEO of Great Oaks Collective, and it's flagship program Overcome, a 10-Week virtual Intensive Outpatient Program for Christian couples experiencing sexual betrayal and addiction. www.greatoakscollective.com

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Transcript
Josh:

Words of Wisdom 1 0 8 on determining what you want.

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Questions part two.

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Sometimes we are so busy with the status

quo or looking at what others are doing,

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we fail to pray and reflect deeply on

what is most important for us to be doing.

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It doesn't really matter what others

are doing, that's out of your control.

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What matters is what you steward

and what God has entrusted to you.

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What matters is that you are earnestly

headed in a purposeful direction.

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What matters is that you are showing up

each day open to whatever God has for you.

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What matters is that you feed the

fire of passion and courageously

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take the next step forward.

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What matters is that you focus your

life on loving and serving others.

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But sometimes it is difficult

to identify what matters most.

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To cut through the uncertainty,

learn to ask powerful questions.

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Asking powerful questions in a

helpful order, is a wonderful

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tool for self-discovery.

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If you aren't sure what you should

want, focus your desire on what will

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help other people Look to people

who best model helping others and

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seek to be shaped by their desires.

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Then take action in becoming as

skilled as possible in helping others.

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The more you desire creating value for

others, the better everything will be

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for you and others in the long run.

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Quotes.

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Gerard believed that all true desire, the

post instinctual kind is metaphysical.

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People are always in search of something

that goes beyond the material world.

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If someone falls under the

influence of a model, who mediates

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the desire for a handbag, it's

not the handbag they are after.

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It's the imagined newness of being.

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They think it will bring Desire

is not of this world by Luke

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Burgess in his book, wanting

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Jesus's command to follow him is a command

to align our loves and longings with his

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to want what God wants to desire, what God

desires, to hunger and thirst after God,

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and crave a world where he is all in all.

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A vision encapsulated by the

shorthand, quote, the Kingdom of God.

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By James KA Smith.

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In his book, you are what you love.

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Questions, what do you want?

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What is actually underneath what you want?

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Will accomplishing what you want,

get you what you really want?

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How valuable is what you want.

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What are the most meaningful

desires you can have?

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To what degree do you desire

the simple and quiet life?

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How close are God's

desires and your desires?

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. Use these questions as a journal

prompt and prayers this week.

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Endnote, taking action without

taking meaningful action is a way to

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look busy, but it lacks substance.

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Continue to take time to ask yourself

about what you want, honing your

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desires so that you can take the

most meaningful actions possible.

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Live wisely.

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Josh,

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Wisdom is the most important skill in life. Yet do you really know how to grow in wisdom? Get brief, weekly reflections Josh Kalsbeek, LMFT. A psychotherapist and the CEO of www.greatoakscollective.com, Josh will help you learn how to live wisely. Learn more about Josh at www.joshkalsbeek.com or www.wisecraft.org.